Over the years, I’ve developed some awesome self care habits that I would like to share with you in the hope that it may help you too. I haven’t always been this way though and my awakening happened in 2017 after a huge tragedy in our family’s life that occurred in 2016. I think it was at that point I could not see any light at the end of the tunnel, I had lost all hope and faith in everything, I had never been in such a dark place. Fast forward to 2017 where hope was starting to return despite not being anywhere close to recovery, I started to make slight changes in my life and my new path was heading towards the light and positivity.
Due to 2016’s traumatic events I ended up having a health scare and was diagnosed with a condition called Idiopathic Intracranial Hypertension (IIH). In other words, it is an illness that is presented with the signs and symptoms of a brain tumour causing high pressure surrounding the brain. As I look back, I think that this illness was with me way before what happened in 2016 and it was lying dormant until as my stress levels triggered this illness. Frightened? YES! My eyesight kept intermittently coming and going and I was literally going blind. They said that if this was left undiagnosed, it could’ve been life threatening for me. Anyway, I am so grateful that it was caught at the right time and I’ve been in remission now for nearly 3 years. March 16th 2021 will be my 3 year anniversary of being in remission 🙌 The reason why I am talking about this is because this is where my self care habits began. I had a huge wakeup call and I had no choice but to take action. I had to start incorporating some SERIOUS self care habits in my life to help me recover, it was a must to get my act together. I was always feeling very sluggish, unmotivated and unhappy with things in my life especially from previous traumas and I couldn’t be this way anymore.
So fast forward to the here and now, I have made some great progress on my journey and I refused to be taken down. The motivation in me is something that is unrecognisable, I am such a different person to how I used to be, how I used to act etc. Of course, I did fall off the wagon time to time during these years, I’m only human, but I always got back up whilst doing my very best and I’ve worked very hard to get my peace back.
My Self Care Routines
- Exercise & healthy eating – this was giving me hope and energy to keep motivated to work towards a healthier lifestyle. I was put on some medication which did not agree with me at all and made me feel so rubbish and tired, I was adamant to come off this medication. So for the last few years, I’ve done everything in my power to get where I am now. Today, I’m full of energy, I’ve got hope and light within me, I’m always trying to see the good in everything and to just be happy because an unhappy life is well, unhappy and unfulfilling – we all want to be happy, don’t we? This is coming from a person who did no exercise in the past and absolutely hated to now loving exercise and fitness.
- Holidays For One – as part of getting on my feet, I went on a few self care/solo holidays. The first holiday was in Crete in May 2017 – I have a very strong connection to Greece, I don’t know why but it always calls my heart. I classed this holiday as a retreat for me, to rediscover myself and to adjust to your new being without anyone telling you what you should or shouldn’t do. When you suffer many losses, you end up losing yourself and you have to get to know yourself all over again and this holiday was exactly that for me. It’s like you have know idea who you are all of a sudden but it was such a great experience for me and was probably one of the best medications I could’ve ever prescribed for myself. This holiday allowed me to see and feel more hope and positivity in and around my life. I was still grieving, (I still am) but I knew I was getting into a much better place. I loved that holiday so much that I went on another solo trip and I went to Santorini in Greece in October 2017. Again, this was part of my recovery process and there is something about being on your own whilst on holiday.
- Law of Attraction – I’ve been on and off with this but more on and I’m fully committed now. I first started the Law of Attraction in 2018 and have manifested some great desires of mine. The Law of Attraction is belief of positivity, practicing positive affirmations, visualising, planning your future and telling yourself that you are so worthy of the life that you desire.
- Gratitude – for an instant pick me up, consciously practice gratitude EVERY SINGLE DAY and I guarantee you that you will immediately put in a positive state. “The more grateful you are, the more you will be given.” Gratitude is one of the most powerful and uplifting tools that can make you happy and get you on the right track. It’s great for your mental health and is a great way to lower your stress levels. I keep a gratitude journal and I write in it everyday.
- Yoga – I started this in 2020 due to Covid19 and lockdown. I was suffering a lot of anxiety last year and decided to give yoga a go. It has helped me raise my vibration, keep me calm, get me grounded and it helps me to be more at one with myself, accepting me for who I am, flaws and all 😊
- Belly Dancing – this by far is my favourite activity ever to enter my life, it is the love of my life. I call belly dance my freedom dance. The music allows me to just express my emotions just the way that they should be expressed according to my soul. I’ve never felt so much freedom when belly dancing. 💜
- Meditation – I actually started this back when my ‘lovely’ upstairs neighbour moved into the building and I use guided sleep meditation to help me get to sleep without having to be disturbed by the noises of my neighbour. I also use meditations for other purposes such as to ground myself and to help me visualise my manifestations. “If you see it in your mind, you will hold it in your hand.”
- Crystal Healing – last year, I bought quite a few crystals that I’m absolutely in love with. They are scattered around my flat to help give it a peaceful vibe and to cleanse the environment. It does work. I’ve had friends over who have pointed out that they could sense a positive energy shift in the air in my flat.
- Smudging aka Sage – I smudge religiously these days. Again this started in lockdown last year and I smudge my flat probably once every 2-3 days or as and when I feel it is needed. It helps to purify the air, and it is also scientifically proven to get rid of any negativity within you and around you. It works, it eases the dull anxiety that has never left my chest. I know exactly when I need to smudge myself and my surroundings.
- Tarot – this is my new thing which again I started last year and I now draw a daily tarot card to help me with my day to day life, what I can focus on, what I can expect or an answer to any question that I have. I really enjoy doing this and tapping into my intuition and higher self. I keep a tarot journal so that I can reflect back on to see what came to light 😊 Today, I got the Ace of Cups card and I love this card so much, it is such a positive, hopeful card. For me and my circumstances, the message to me from this card today is, “Something new, whether it be what you’re manifesting or new seeds of love are being planted. Some sort of good news arriving maybe. Wait and see 😉 “
- Self kindness & self compassion – just learning not to criticise myself at any given opportunity and doing what makes me happy and things that brings me joy. Whether that doesn’t sit right with others is not my business. I do more of what makes me happy. 😃 If a negative thought enters my mind, as soon as I’m aware of it I replace that thought with a good thought. The thing to remember here is that whilst thoughts are not facts, they can become a reality, so we have to be careful and be very aware of our thoughts. The more positive thinking we can incorporate into our lives, the more happy and satisfied we will be.
- Learning to focus on what I want rather than what I don’t want – same goes for focusing on what makes you happy rather than what doesn’t make you happy. Like attracts like so if I’m going to focus on negative things or keep complaining, then all I can expect is negative things cropping up in my life.
- Setting boundaries – with myself and with others. Each experience you have, whether good or not so great are lessons for you to learn from. Walls are there to protect you and guard you so trusting your intuition on this is a good place to start. We all know where we should be setting boundaries in our lives, it’s just a matter of putting them up. 😉
I could go on and on but I’ll stop now as this would be a never ending post. But as you can see, there are so many ways to remain positive, so many ways to get into a positive state, to be kind to yourself and show yourself some love. It does require a lot of work, it’s easier to be negative than positive. We always look to the negative side of things and then we wonder why we don’t have anything good happening. In fact, there are so many blessings in our lives everyday and miracles are happening in our lives, always. Time is passing! Don’t give up, we’ve got one shot at this! Challenge the status quo and the next time something is not going great, try a different reaction, look at things from a different perspective, God knows what you might find 😉 It’s very important especially during these uncertain times that we remain as positive as much as we can. If you have to force it, then force it 💜
As we come to the end of this post, I hope this has helped to you make a fresh start or encourage you to see things from a different perspective. I’ll leave a quote for you below to ponder on 😊